Sunday, April 5, 2015

Here I am!!! … Brand new to this world! 

Loving insights from a Brillinat Newborn http://braininsights.blogspot.com/2015/04/insights-from-brilliant-newborn.html How exciting this is… but, WOW it is also very scary!  It certainly was much calmer and warmer where I was living the last nine months.  Now, there are so many more sensations to deal with.  I am lying here all alone and I have no control about ANYTHING!  

How am I going to get my needs met?  I sure hope there is someone that will take care of me to keep me safe, make me feel secure or respond when I need something! 

Oh I hear that voice I got used to hearing. It makes me feel a bit calmer to hear something familiar. It sounds soothing as she talks to me.  

I am moving, this feels strange and also a bit frightening. I feel like I am falling. I startle and cry. Oh there, that feels much better.  She is cuddling me in her arms. I feel safe and warm here. I can feel her skin against mine. Hearing her heartbeat again along with her scent makes me feel very comforted. I hope she can see that I am showing through my relaxed body and my eyes looking at her eyes that I like all of this very much. If she notices that I like it, hopefully she will do this frequently. 

But …. I am beginning to feel some discomfort. It feels that I need to be fed. I hope she will know this is what I need now. I look around, squirm to see what I can find.

Oh no!  She doesn’t seem to know. I will show her with the way I move my tongue and position my mouth.  Oh good, she is watching.  She is imitating it back to me! She is showing me she knows what I was telling her! She is now feeding me!

It feels extremely wonderful to know that I can communicate my needs and have them understood. She recognizes that I am someone important, special, valuable and already quite brilliant! I really like her! 

Hopefully, she will stick around and this will continue! If all of this does happen repeatedly in this loving responsive way, it will create the critically important connections my brain requires to contribute toward enhancing the......


 Loving insights from a Brillinat Newborn http://braininsights.blogspot.com/2015/04/insights-from-brilliant-newborn.html

Together we can make a world of difference! 
It just takes understanding, 
caring and sharing!

Beautiful and Valuable Resources to help you support the healthy brain development and the love of the baby you care about:

You Are My World
How a parents love shapes a baby's mind (English or Bilingual)

The Blossom Method
The revolutionary way to communicate with your baby from birth

A Moving Child is a Learning Child
How the body teach the brain to think (0-7)

The Science of Parenting; 
How today's brain resarch can help you raise happy, emotionally balanced children

Elevating Child Care; A guide to respectful parenting   (English or Spanish)

Zero to Five; 70 essential parenting tips based on science

Love Your Baby; Making connections in the first year   (English or Spanish)

Loving A Baby; (Print in 3 versions)

Love A Child with Brain Insights! www.BrainInsightsonline.com

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The Best Way to Grow Flowers… or Children?

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

An analogy on kindergarten:
I left teaching many years ago for the reasons shared in this analogy.

Filled with excitement a young woman enters a greenhouse filled with a variety of wondrous buds anxiously ready to sprout. She smiles as she sees how they are all at different stages of readiness to emerge from seedlings or buds about to burst into full blossom. 

She is thrilled to have accepted the job of her dreams. For years it has been her heartfelt desire to contribute to the healthy growth of young flowers. She is anxious to get started in sharing her enthusiasm to support the development of the individual beauty of each flower.   

As she enjoys the variety of color beginning to appear and is filled with the 
delightful scents surrounding her, she reflects on how exquisite it is that all of the flowers are unique. Her excitement continues to grow as she thinks about how extremely wonderful it is also that each flower blooms on a different timeline, so there is continuous beauty being revealed in the world. 

Prior to accepting the position, she inquired about the philosophy of the greenhouse and found compatibility. The mission of the gardening board matched her ideals. 

Mission: To provide an environment of support toward ensuring all flowers meet or exceed expected levels of success in blooming beautifully.

Now she was finally here and ready. She thought, “Let’s get to it and have some fun!”

To get started, she turned to the manual of policies and procedures the head gardener handed her when she arrived.  This is what she found:

Goal: To help all flowers become a fully blossomed red rose with no thorns, variations or imperfections.

Objective: To implement procedures to ensure at least 90% of flowers achieve the stated goal as set forth by the greenhouse board of advisers.

Demonstrated Outcomes:  Achievement will be met within the specific growing season.  Standardized measurements will be administered to determine the level of effectiveness in meeting the required outcomes. 


  • All flowers must be kept in straight rows in the same size containers at all times.
  • Flowers are to be planted in the designated soil. No exceptions.
  • Once per day the same amount of water is to be provided to each flower.  No exceptions.
  • Give each flower the same prescribed quantity of all purpose fertilizer daily. This may only be dispensed at mid day.
  • Outdoor exposure is allowed for 10 minutes per day or less. Keep all flowers indoors under artificial lighting and preferably away from windows at all other times.

Testing will take place at mid season to ensure all flowers are on track for achieving the same height and color by the end of the growing season.

Reminder your job is to help all flowers grow!

Thank you,

The KINDER-GARDEN Administration

After reading what was prescribed, her heart broke in an instant and tears filled her eyes. She was not heartbroken for herself, but her extreme sorrow was for each of the young anxious and hopeful seedlings that were ready to radiate their unique brilliance. She thought how they are trusting that their individual needs and splendor will be recognized, respected and valued and they had no idea this is not at all what they were about to experience.

She then also realized, the world will never benefit from the magnificence of the remarkable garden that could have been.

Note: I was that young woman when I started my career as a kindergarten teacher. My deep and heartfelt passion now is to provide and share information through Brain Insights presentations and unique brain development packets with the dream of EVERY individual child to be supported in the development of revealing their unique brilliance!

Support for Friendships for Girls

Friday, October 24, 2014

"Empathy isn't knowing how you would feel if you were in her shoes. It's understanding how she feels in her own shoes."  
~ Kyle Miller

This quote is one I find explains empathy perfectly. A personal story of relationships between girls was shared in a recent post. It emphasizes how essential the life skill of empathy is for relationships and well-being in life. 

Support for Friendship for Girls

Of course the early years of birth - 5 are the time of greatest impact in wiring the brain for relationship and empathy abilities. However, the childhood years are an important time for practicing these essential life skills. The friendship experiences during this time have a critical impact on brain pathways toward adulthood. Through social interactions, the pre-teen years are a time that continues to contribute to the development of the pre-frontal cortex. This is the area of the brain responsible for the ability to self-regulate.

Annie Fox, M.Ed., is an internationally respected parenting expert, family coach and trusted online adviser for teens. She has just released a wonderful new book to guide healthy relationships for girls ages 8-12. The Girls' Q &A Book on Friendship, is one that I had the honor of reviewing and am thrilled to share here.

My review:
“The world is going to be filled with girls that are kind, smart and self-assured as a result of this book. It’s fantastic! Annie provides fun, caring, straight forward, practical and supportive solutions for common relationship problems at a time when genuine friendships are needed more than ever! She communicates at the girls’ level so well!!”

The Girls' Q&A Book    http://bit.ly/GirlsQA1

In addition, I had the pleasure of interviewing Annie about the value of this resource for girls, educators and parents during her book tour. Enjoy learning more about Annie and this great book.

1   Deborah:   Do you find that there is a greater need for helping girls develop healthy friendships more than ever before?

Annie: Short answer, yes. Why? Because many girls’ friendship conflicts are played out on social media instead of being resolved in private, calm, and respectful face-to-face conversations. Or in conversations facilitated by caring adults. Social media is the world’s largest unsupervised playground and when girls go there to vent about a friend, things can spin out of control in seconds (and often do). It’s really all about learning to manage destructive emotions in responsible ways so no one gets hurt intentionally.

We all feel the effects of jealousy, hurt, betrayal, rejection… but people who have high Emotional (or Social) Intelligence skills know how to calm down before taking action. That’s the piece that’s missing for girls (and boys) these days. When they feel upset they grab the nearest device and use it as a weapon to get back at whomever they’re upset with at the moment. So much damage to girls’ health and well-being could be avoided (or minimized) if they had more tools for calming down, developing empathy, and communicating effectively and respectfully. Those are the skills girls need to develop healthy friendships (and, in later life) healthy professional relationships and romantic ones as well.

2   Deborah: Is there an aspect of friendships that you find to be most common from the girls that have contributed questions to the book?

Annie: Most common is the misconception that “If I speak up for myself in a friendship, I am not being a good friend.” This creates huge problems for girls because when they are upset, they need to express themselves effectively and appropriately to the friend who needs to hear it. (Talking behind her back doesn’t count!) But girls are often unwilling and/or unable to initiate those conversations. So they feel miserable and stuck in their misery. They believe that a “good friend” should never tell a friend something negative because then she will “hurt the friend’s feelings. And that’s mean.” So, if I, Annie, am hurt by something my bff Deborah did, I can not tell her, otherwise I will not be a good friend.” But Deborah is not a mind reader. If I suffer in silence, Deborah has no way of knowing how I feel. My silence will, in fact, send the message that it is OK for her to continue hurting me, even though it is not OK! My silence also leaves me feeling upset and powerless, not realizing that I do have power to change my response to this situation.

     Deborah: After providing support and advice, what is the most heartwarming story of change you have seen take place?

Annie: A girl emailed me about having fallen for her bff’s boyfriend. She was crying herself to sleep every night and thinking about him all the time and each time, feeling super guilty about “betraying” her friend… even though neither her friend nor the boyfriend ever knew she had these feelings. She also felt there was something “wrong” with her because she had never had a boyfriend. She wrote to me recently with an update…  

 I've really gotten to be comfortable and happy with myself as I am, and I'm happy that I've grown as a person since then. I've even given a speech similar to yours to my other friends. I'm so much happier with my school life, my friends, how I spent my free time, etc. now than I was a year ago, and I just wanted to tell you that I'm doing so well now! Thanks so much for being there for me and all the other people who come to you for help.” 

As you can imagine, that email totally made my day!
     Deborah: There are many options for ways this book can be beneficial. Is there a way that you suggest the book is used to be most influential?

Annie: This book can be read by a girl all by herself and it will, hopefully, feel like she is with a friend who understands and can give her advice she can trust. The book can also be read by a girl and her Mom or Dad. I can imagine so many great family conversations that could be sparked by the Q&A in this book! Another way would be for two or three girls to read the book together. That would provide a safe context for girls to talk about some of the experiences and feelings they’ve had (or are having). Ultimately, any reading of the book that provides food for thought and action steps is going to empower girls and make their friendship healthier, stronger, and more fun!

To enjoy and benefit from all that Annie shares go to Annie Fox.com

Brain Insight to Share: Experiences Have an Enormous Impact!

Monday, October 13, 2014

 Making a Difference for the brain development of young Children - http://braininsights.blogspot.com/
 "The wiring of the brain of a young child is enormously impacted by the emotional environment it experiences frequently."

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Research from Institute of Learning & Brain Sciences at the University of Washington

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